In Bullet Points!

I am happy at this point in my family life. There were ups and downs but I guess, that extra patience and hope can make all the difference.  I would like to share some thoughts in bullet points, are you ready?

• I learned that in relationships you must say exactly what you mean. This is not the 19th century wherein women are not allowed to speak, in fact, we must. I have tried so many times to allow my partner to get my thinking without me really speaking anything, but it does not work that way.
• If there is something good about the relationship, if there is something that you feel is worth holding on to then do not stop yourself from fighting. This is quite the tricky part because a lot of our decisions come from outside forces. But remember that you know the truth and if everything is still what it is then nothing has changed.
• Communication is key! I think this is expressed over and over but truth is, you can't function without good communication. It's the most important thing in a relationship. You can't assume, expect or play the guessing game. You have to let out your thoughts, even the silliest.
• Do not underestimate a good laugh. It's not really hard because if you can laugh at yourself then surely he can laugh with you as well. 
• When in a fight, you can't be both boiling at the same time. Someone must take the other route and be the calm sea. 
• You really can't nag all the time. That I learned the hard way. Try the silent war, it works!
• Men have their own way of realizing their mistakes and they cannot be rushed. Be more patient. 
• Women run the family, we do! We are the financial managers, caretakers, planning and budget officers and all! We take that role like it is no sweat but really it is damn hard. Sometimes, we need to reward ourselves, not just with things but a nice bubble bath, walk with nature or playing with our kids. 
• Life is not a huge globe that we should be carrying. Relationships are two people trying to make it work, not just the other person. Both should be hand in hand. Cooperate while you can and make sure he does too. 
• Certainly, it is not all smiles, but it is not all pain either. Let yourself enjoy everything and let the other person be happy as well.